Vegas Loser?

Dear Eve,

I was just in Las Vegas a few weeks ago and one night when I was at my favorite bar at the Bellagio I met a really neat guy. We spent the weekend together and it was fantastic. He is a professional poker player or at least that is what he told me. I'm back home now but I haven't heard from him, he is not returning my calls. He had a tournament coming up and was very excited about it and promised he come and visit me. Should I just give up? I guess it was just a fling?

Vegas Lover

Dearest VL,

I have to admit, this town of mine has been the backdrop for many a sad story with a gambling theme. That clever marketing routine of "What goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas" works for a reason. People seem to come here sometimes to try on alternate personalities. Hmmm...

As for your lover turned disappearing act, I'm sorry to say, I don't see much hope for this affair. When I look at your young man, he seems addicted to his profession in such a way that he lives the highs and lows to extreme degrees. It seems as if he is battling to maintain the highs and then he cannot sustain the mood or this high vibration for a prolonged time and starts to crash. There is part of him that is addicted to the whole up and down cycle. When he is up he is generous and fun, like your best girlfriend, full of enthusiasm combined with an amorous man of course. When he is down it is like death, and his vibration is so low, to a woman it looks like he is a death's doorstep. When he is in low gear, his body is attempting to heal itself, but his mood is dour. Right now he is in a very low state, looks like something happened to his car too, and he is in survival mode. He probably lost a bunch of money at the tournament. Dear, this guy is trouble, and you can do better. He needs to find a way out of this endless cycle and roller coaster he is on. Unfortunately, casinos and others make a lot of money off people with these kind of problems. One aspect of his struggle is that when he is up, the vibration is to high for his body to maintain, and when he is down his spirit leaves his body and another entity comes in that is not much fun to be around.

He has some years to go before he gets a handle on this. I understand that you two had a load of fun when he was on top of the world, but he is just not good relationship material right now. For one thing, he could have at least been more honest about the way his life is going right now. But of course, when one is in that high flying state it's as if it will be like that forever. So, luckily, you found this out before your heart got too involved and you decided to try and save him. (harrumph) Right now, he is just too embarrassed to call. Embarrassed that he portrayed himself one way and he is now down in the dumps and out of control. Let's wish for him that he finds some help. Sometimes it's not just the substance that one is addicted to but something far more difficult to define and explain.

Look closer to home honey, I see someone just around the corner (figuratively) for you. Has something to do with knitting. (that's a strange clue, I know, because I don't knit either)
Love, Ms. Eve.