Am I just Lazy or What?

Dear Ms. Eve,

Thanks so much for writing this column. I appreciate any feedback you can give me, though I'm kind of embarassed to ask, but here goes.

I am a really creative person, but I can't seem to stick to one idea or project. I love brainstorming for my friends and I seem to come up with some good ideas for them--not that they really appreciate it all the time--but anyway, I'm good at ideas. In fact people come to me for advice on business when my business is not always booming, but I give great advice. It's like I have the information but I'm not using it too much for me.

When it comes to implementing ideas or going forward for myself, I get stuck, and like, here it is 11 am and I am still in my bathrobe! (A really nice soft white one by the way that is the most comfortable thing I have). I have a ton of things to do. Am I just lazy?

Why am I moving so slowly? Should I go back to working in customer service for my old boss? They all said I was crazy to start my own business.

Frustrated Entrepreneur

Dear Frustrated Genius,

Honey, I can just see that huge fluffy white robe of yours, and I think it's time to take it off. While I am a great advocate of working at the computer in your pajamas, you have to set limits to how much time you sit there in your pajamas before getting dressed. I have found that too much pajama time tends to inspire me to laze around and want to pop bon bons and read magazines--which I love to do. So many strange people and lovely things to read about. Don't even mention distracting frivolous websites. I am suggesting a couple of changes in terms of your daily routine, and work apparel.

In the mornings, stay in your fluffy robe while you check email, sip your coffee or stimulant of choice, and do the basics in getting your day started. Then after a set period of time, for heaven's sake, get dressed. Find some gorgeous work at home apparel that is totally comfortable and validating, in colors that inspire you. But make the clothes something that you can also wear in public so you don't have to waste time in front of the closet changing again to go do errands and business appointments. Just because you are starting a business at home does not mean you can be a slob, even if you don't see anyone. Obviously, you are not expecting a fed ex with a fat check in it if your hair is sticking up like rooster comb and you've got 3 day old crumbs on your robe collar. And if you're not available (to slobby to answer the door) to take $$$ delivery, why should the universe send anything? Dressing like a slob does not inspire you right now, does it? Nevermind what other people do or that internet geniuses are ruling the world in their frayed ugly shorts and smelly flip flops. It hasn't worked for you so you must change it. All this advice is not clairvoyant you say? It is, because I know you like fine clothes and are a sensual and sensitive person who is affected by the vibration of what she wears. Dress yourself to inspire your most important asset: you.

Now, as for laziness, I think that is just a convenient self judgement for the limits you have within you about what you are "allowed" to have. It is so much easier to give away your energy and ideas for a little validation (or not, in the case of some of your praise-stingy friends)or for the hope of a little love.... or the secret relief of having an excuse for not doing. An excuse such as: I give it all away and nobody loves me! Or I am a victim of being too generous to ungrateful people! BOO HOO, darling!! Look at your choices and take charge of them. You must face your fears of being successful. What are they? This is going to take a little inner excavation dear, but you can do it and reprogram yourself for success. You can do it!

Just to give you encouragement, I do see shining brightly in your aura three great business creations, one which you have already embarked on, and I say, full steam ahead, go for it. The others look good , though one is just a fun side business that has to do with food, more like a hobby I think. Put your energy into the one you already started. A little later, get started with the other that you are looking at and have a lot of enthusiasm for, and just do the food one for fun, on the side until you just don't have time for it...or sell the food idea, it looks like it could sell to someone else. People will tell you that you should keep your focus on one business at a time, because it's hard enough to just get one business off the ground. But you are like me capable of running more than one at a time. I see the second one will be your real money maker, and the first is more heart connected that you will put energy into, but growth will be limited because you will only be interested in taking it to a certain level.
But anyway....No, darling, you are not really lazy, you just have got to realize that your actions are controlled a bit by the limits programmed within you, and you can heal those with a little attention and awareness. Yes, indeed you sure do have the business information and your intuition is all you need to follow. Now, I want you to practice keeping your customer service oriented mouth shut with the excessive free advice until you are well under way. Maybe by then you'll figure out that what people most need is someone to listen and give encouragement, not necessarily advice. You don't see me telling you how to actually run your business do you?

I see a hot pink as your healing color today. Maybe it's time to go shopping for work wardrobe with some hot pink in it....OOOhhh, I love a good excuse for shopping.

Love. Eve